Refreshed!

I am feeling wonderfully refreshed after a short 4 day stint in Florida. I went down last week to visit my Dad and had a fantastic time. Although it was only 65 degrees the day I arrived, I was loving wearing jeans and a t shirt. It warmed up nicely the rest of the time and I spent one day by the pool and one day at the beach. I have a nice little tan now and feel so much more alive then I do when I'm winter pasty.

Not sure if I mentioned this before, but my father and his wife are recently separated. She is a bitch....always has been. Anyway, he moved out and bought his own condo so I went down to makes sure he had a good time on his birthday and had some help getting his new place in order. As it turns out, the place is gorgeous and he already decorated. He did a really nice job too. It is now quite a bachelor pad... a tastefully done bachelor pad though. I'm happy for him. He looks and seems more himself since the split. I'm not happy that his ex keeps showing up whenever she wants. I want to kick her. On Friday night, I had plans to meet our fellow blogger EJ. My dad was going to meet his friends at the same bar and sure enough on the way out the door the ex shows up and invites herself along to. It was rough to play nice when I really wanted to tell her where to stick it. But, my baby sister (6 years old!) was there and I didn't want to subject her to any of that. The stupid woman showed up like 3 more times over the weekend and always when we were having company or doing something social. I think she was worried we'd all be talking about her or something. According to my father she doesn't usually do that. Maybe it was just my presence lol.

EJ and I met along with her best friend and ended up having a fabulous time. We all got along really well. I'm looking forward to getting her up to New York to meet some of the other girls up here!

Coming home to NY after spending any time in a clean, pretty place is always so depressing. It doesn't help at all to be coming back to 19 degree weather. I'm bummed. I can't wait until The Boy and I are all done with school and can move on from here. I was on the computer almost the second I walked in the door yesterday looking at our optins for our next residence. Between us we have a decent list of requirements...we have to get more for our money then NY, has to be clean and safe, close to a beach, have 4 seasons but a more mild winter then here (The Boy could actually care less about the cold but there is no way I can do this forever.), near or in a metropolitan area with good business/corporate work force and have good schools. I also mentioned to TB that the only way I'd be movign anywhere else with him was if we were legally bound. He gave me a kiss and said that was completely understandable.

Speaking of TB, he and I talked everything out. According to him, he wasn't thinking about "not" ever getting married when he was listing options. He was just trying to say the right thing to make me feel better and stop crying. I can honestly say I believe him, although I'm currently sleeping with one eye open. I know that when I rant, he sounds like a shitty guy, but he really is one of the best human beings I have ever met regardless of our relationship. Since last fall, he and I have really been working on everything and I really feel great about where we stand in our relationship. Until he pulled that tuition thing on me, I felt like we had really turned things around and found ourselves again. I hope he was being honest and just spoke like a man instead of thinking things through. If not, his time will come. I will not be led on forever.

Last week I began my application for next semester and he worked out all the figures of the remaining school related costs after tuition remission. With the spousal tution remission, tuition is free, but I'd still be responsible for the taxes. It's quite a bit of taxes, but it's wayyy less then tution PLUS taxes! I guess we'll see what happens next.

On a different note, Grandpa will be moved home tomorrow. The home nurse people will be setting up all the hospital stuff at the house tonight. I think he will be much more comfortable when he gets home.